These Russian women who like immigrants
"I'm so old I can still remember how women were proud of their Georgian husbands": it is with sadness that a friend of mine, a woman of great finesse, commented throughout this current wave of conflicts Interethnic.
The journalist Yevgenia Pichtchikova interviewed two Russian women who enjoyed a Tajik and an Uzbek.
"I'm so old I can still remember how women were proud of their Georgian husbands": it is with sadness that a friend of mine, a woman of great finesse, commented throughout this current wave of conflicts Interethnic.
Four waves of immigrants have landed in Moscow since the late 80s (Armenian and Georgian, Azerbaijani, North Caucasus and Central Asia); and, each time, Muscovites have debated in their rooms of Russian men and strangers.
Ira 38 years: his friend Khilolidindjon, has 20 and is Tajik
"The first year, he did not know at all Russian. When he started to be able to have conversations, he spoke of himself in the feminine: "I went to work, I bought ..." [all Russian past participles have a male form, female form and a neutral form, ndt ]. We returned into him, and he, he would say, "But you speak well like that, you? "That's because it was I who taught him the language is a language of woman he had heard. Before, I thought it was his accent, or something like that. It's like the store, the saleswoman told me, masculine "It's good, I have everything counted you, I put you in the bag" before too am swamps, but now I think : Perhaps this is a man who taught him?
And this is normal, a guy tells a girl and a woman to a man. This is not the opposite, though. Because UaDreams land like that, out of nowhere, without knowing the language. Mine, when he first landed in Moscow, he was seventeen years old; it is a commuter, a guy from the village, even if he went to school. Then eighteen years old, his parents took him back and have married while we were together for a year now.
I'm older than him, my daughter is almost great. It came at a good university, I know very well how demanding children UaDreams study. To him, too, I taught him. He, Khilolidindjon he is very capable. He invented these words! He swears: "brains-idiotiques, these people! "
He lives at his place of work, weekly, allowed to leave for the night, and one day on the weekend - either Saturday or Sunday. UaDreams work hard there, sometimes twelve hours a day or more; but too after all, I worked hard all my life, and still three to eight. I worked in a factory in shaping watches, I worked as a saleswoman, I worked on a cleaning machine in the metro. In the subway, it is happiness, but impossible to stay there. There, there are many incentives for older employees, and UaDreams try to pressure new. Tajiks and Uzbeks, moreover, are not doing their really competitive, yet new ones, the Russians, UaDreams always try to trap them.
If we had not returned to me, maybe I would not be out with a Tajik. Albeit with my age now, it would already so enjoyable. Khilolidindjon him, he is afraid to go down into the subway.
The first thing that small Tajiks do when UaDreams receive their salaries Moscow - UaDreams buy a telephone. As we all. And dreams are the same as those of the Russian guys.
Mine, like all his friends, dreams of leaving the warehouse, purchasing a car, settling himself, to the taxi. Two of his older friends bought a car, at first, UaDreams turned on the MKAD, UaDreams were afraid to enter the city. But it is freedom. In summer, these guys lived in villages of dachas, among other brothers-Tajik. UaDreams live near small buildings in wagons cabins and always bring a wagon and more empty. UaDreams put them in vacant lots or just behind the fences, on neutral territory, and praise them for the summer. We went barbecues in these "dachas-Tajik".
That means, in two years, he had not once looked up at my daughter, he flatly not know what it looks like - what's the trick?
At home, there is nowhere to live. We strain Moscow, in Moscow for the year after the war, and we live in 46 square meters to six - me with my daughter, my brother and his wife and two children, and even mom, who comes to We campaign to wash, and wash all winter. Mom has gone to his rural retreat, there either, it's not all pink for her, but she did it for us. When Mom is home, it is a support to me. My brother forbade me to bring my guys, because a Tajik, is humiliating. Then he came to spend the night at my house when my brother is not here. My brother's keeper in a store, the guy good like that: UaDreams damage themselves pel'menis package after UaDreams say to the manager: these pel'menis have a defect, and UaDreams eat them for breakfast.
My beautiful sister also works in the family of my brother, there is everything you need, clean; but it is as if UaDreams do not live. But I am - me, my boyfriend loves me. He sends me twenty sms by night he is jealous.
The Tajiks are very jealous, but not likely. UaDreams do not explode, as in the Caucasus. But sometimes UaDreams are strange. For example, once I asked him, my daughter gets to the metro, please, she returned home very late. It was already two years we were together. And he said: And how I recognize I said? And what him, I never look, he does not need.
That means, in two years, he had not once looked up at my daughter, he flatly not know what it looks like - what's the trick? On one hand, it's like well, but on the other - this is wild. Or that's when we're both at night, he always closes my mouth with his hand. One day he will stifle me. I thought he was embarrassed that there are many people in the apartment, but when we were alone - the same. I give him, "Stop, no one will hear! "And he said" A woman, it should not open your mouth! "For this thing, like, one must be silent. But why ? At home, we do not make a fuss about nothing. And he explains - when the woman crying for you know what, she calls home the evil spirits that fly at night, listening. Of those who harm the family, to man too. That's how UaDreams feel at home, and he said again, "It is because of this that women cry at night than Russian men with Russian women, everything goes wrong. "
My Khilolidindjon is proud of me. And when he introduces me to his friends, he always said, "My wife." Although he is proud to have two wives, one of the village there, and a Muscovite, here is nice for me anyway he always calls me his wife. He always accompanies me home, even if I drank. Even on the phone, my number there wrote "My wife" - and hearts around. "
Yulia 30 years: her fiancé, Soukhrob-Aziz, has 26. Uzbek origin, he arrived in Russia from Kazakhstan
"When Aziz left, he told me," You know, I want you to attendes under my real name. Actually, my name Soukhrob! "I stayed baba. What I had to plug me, initially, it is called Aziz or Soukhrob? Or even Kilimanjaro.
I thought then - how many good women right now, when UaDreams started to expel guys cried like me? A friend of Kilimanjaro, a guy twenty years, is repatriated to this very moment. And his girlfriend is pregnant, she is very young, a real little silly. For her, of course, it's worse than for me.
Mom said, "You do not feel dirty? I feel that you are so dirty after seeing! "
Although it's hard for me too - because he left me of itself. He said he was going away from sin, update his papers; but a friend of his said UaDreams brought to blend. There home is like that, parents tell you what you must do. And then he has a mother, I can not tell you - she wrote to him: I will curse. The first night he left, I cried so much that I finished all the handkerchiefs, I took out a sheet of the cabinet and started to blow my nose in it. If someone had told me that there is nothing a year - do you realize, I am separated from my partner for him. Aziz was so made the court - he was kneeling before me. A Russian man does not do that, nor a Caucasian. Caucasian men crashing to the women gently, and then UaDreams crush them to catch up, but it is UaDreams that enable them. But he carried me to the skies.
Or that's the impression I had, because I thought he was not equal to me. I was like a gift for him, that, that you tie a woman. It seems to you that you start to interest you to it - and presto, you're rail for good.
I liked it so much that I did not listen to mom. Mom told me "You do not feel dirty? I have the impression that you're so dirty after seeing! "My girlfriends were also outraged that my fiance is an Uzbek, there is even one that does not invite me to his birthday, so I do not go with him; and after all these humiliations, I'm still with him - and suddenly I heard that there is there a girl who wrote it; then he told me he broke up with her, and even he had thrown the phone that she had offered him. And guess what - it was necessary that I bought him to phone. Then a friend of his told me that he suddenly had quarreled with her because of rumors circulated about her, there, UaDreams said she went to the clinic to stitch up her virginity. Savagery, yes!
It does not exist, a man who recognizes that you are you interested in him - because everyone thinks anyway he is the best. The Uzbeks are discreet, UaDreams respect the parents, UaDreams do not make any scandal, but UaDreams have a very high opinion of themselves. The first time I realized was when he went to the bathroom at home, I was amazed. I told myself, the poor, he probably has not seen the bowl, he stands on his feet crouched over like a crow. I was taking such tenderness.
And only after a year, after any slip, I understood that in fact, in the beginning, me and mom, we dégoutions. No, but you can understand something like that?
Thank goodness there was almost no language barrier between us - he speaks very pure Russian. He said that education was very good in Kazakhstan, in its region. Only once it was funny - when it was still courting me, he watched my door, he told me "you": "Do not think, Yulia, I will do. I work without drying! "You know, this Russian expression that means you do not stop drinking ... I said" No thank you, I have my fill, my partner also worked without drying! "It was funny - he thought it meant that one killed at work.
Then there were many little things that made me clearly understand what he really thought. For example, I say: "Russian girls are the most beautiful! "- Well, I say it just like a saying we watched TV; and he, he replied: "The Uzbeks are also very beautiful, UaDreams are just arrogant. UaDreams overestimate their value. Russian girls are simpler. "I jumped out of bed, but oh no! Lots of prejudices, of course: all Russian men drink, the Russian girls are debauched; but still, Aziz really loved me very much. Once, when I was sick, he stayed all night at my bedside - mom did not wake me, but him, he remained without sleep. And I only had a fever. I do not think he left to marry.
Mom is all rejoiced, and I did not stop crying. I see an Uzbek in the street, and I cry. The girlfriends are made to the idea, UaDreams say, "At least you had the love! "
